Well after a very interesting Monday evening conversation with a few friends of mine, my mind was left unsettled by this statement. DATE AS MANY AS YOU CAN. I always taught or have known cheating to be when one person dates more than one person at time. Exactly what my friends are promoting by saying; date as many as you can and when you ready to marry REDUCE! Sounds like a good plan only if emotions were not involved.
Steps to a successful 'date as many as you can' relationship is;
1) The people you are dating must not know each other (or else it will cause tension between them),
2) Do not tell them that they are the only one (because you will be considered to be lying) and
3) Don't give them any opportunity to ask you if they are the one.
WOW! These are the simple steps I gathered from our conversation that makes a successful 'date as many as you can' relationship. Apparently the only time its wrong is when you get caught?!? This left me thinking once again, what is the definition of cheating? 'Cause to me this setting is not far off from it.
According to Wikipedia (bad source to quote- I know but it puts my point across) cheating is "... doing anything, whether verbal or physical, that one would not do in front of their significant other. Such examples would include: expressing attraction to another person, electronic communications,texting, data, kissing, making out, and sexual relations."
Dictionary.com describes cheating as not being faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend".
With all of this said one can gather that this little notion of date as many as you can, can be found to be cheating. I guess one thing that one must always have in mind is; DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE DONE TO YOU. Because I doubt my friends even though they promote this notion that they would appreciate being the 'significant other person' to the person they are dating. As bad as it may sound we all love to loved and we would love for all the attention from the one we are dating to be ours only. We are jealous souls just like our Father who is in Heaven.
My opinion is that relationships are not a team sport not until you are married and the babies start coming in goodly numbers. We need to understand why we need to date and what is it that we would like to gain from that relationship! As we come to know of these things for ourselves we will be able to respect our partners, achieve good qualities to enable us to become good husbands or wives to someone else one day, learn and develop skills that will build our characters for the better.
